Why do you have to be so judgy?

[et_pb_section admin_label="section"][et_pb_row admin_label="row"][et_pb_column type="4_4"][et_pb_text admin_label="Text"] You guys, I will admit to you one of my guilty pleasures right now...I happen to enjoy some celebrity gossip on a daily basis. I'm not insane about it, but I do like to check out a few websites from time to time during the day to see the cute puppy that the Clooney's recently adopted or what Sandra Bullock wore to her movie premier, that's about it. So last night while I was laying in bed, winding down from my day, I was on the People Magazine website and noticed an article about Chrissy Tiegen, who I happen to love for her candor. For those of you who don't know who she is, she's  a Supermodel/Talk Show Host who's married to the ultra talented (and easy on the eyes) John Legend. They're currently expecting their first child after revealing infertility issues. First off, congratulations to Chrissy and John, your lives are about to change in the absolute best way possible! Chrissy is a regular poster to Instagram and Twitter and yesterday (or maybe it was Weds night), she posted a picture of her nightly craving...a bowl of cereal, a mixture of Cap'N Crunch and Fruity Pebbles (my brain just had a delicious childhood flashback!!). After she posted the pic, the interweb went crazy shaming her for feeding herself and her baby the horrible poison concoction. Her reply was of course epic and quite honestly spot on. I have a few issues with the negative comments...here's why:

  • Some people will say "she's a celebrity, she put herself out there, blah, blah, blah"...yes, I get that. She lives in the public eye, she's gorgeous and funny and people love her and want to know what she's up to. She's also being open in allowing her fans to see her daily life, which is awesome. Just because she is who she is does not make it okay for anyone to negatively comment on how she lives it. Did your mother NOT teach you to keep your mouth shut if you have nothing nice to say? (Especially to someone you don't know!).
  • I'm willing to bet that just about every person who commented on her photo about it being "bad dyed crap", "poison", "non-organic" or whatever they said, is being a total hypocrite. What, you guys have never had processed food? You've never cheated on your whole food, all organic, perfect diet?  You don't know the joy of a a Mounds bar??? Man, I'm sorry because that is some really good stuff, on occasion. I bet you're the ones who give out granola bars on Halloween...
  • I'm pretty sure Chrissy is very aware of what she's putting in her body. It's HER JOB to know what she's eating. Her body is her money maker. She's a size 0 (probably) and if she wants a freaking bowl of crappy cereal, then let her eat it. She earned it. She fought to be pregnant so let her enjoy it without being snarky and crappy.

Here's the deal...Chrissy Tiegen does not need me to defend her, her story was the catalyst to this question: why can't we just let people live their lives without judgement? You live yours and I'll live mine and that's that. Being the age that I am, I've had the, I'm not sure if opportunity is the right word here, but it's the only one that comes to mind so for lack of a better word, 'opportunity' to watch our world shrink from an accessibility perspective. When I was a kid we had one TV and a telephone attached to the kitchen wall with a cord that was a hundred (I exaggerate) feet long so you could walk around and talk on it. We didn't get our first computer until 1998, and it was a desktop. I got a cellphone when I bought my first car, circa 1992. Who remembers the Motorola bag phone? Well that was the one I had...it was a "car phone", and I'm pretty sure my brother still has that phone number! The internet was brand new in the 90's...so was email. We didn't have text or Facebook or Instagram or any kind of social media for that matter. Sometimes I long for those days. Days without an iPad, without instant access to everything. I wonder what all this advanced technology is going to do to our social interactions. It's getting harder and harder to put the phone down. It's becoming an effort to have a real, live conversation and that makes me sad. We are all guilty of putting ourselves out there on our own social media. We post photos and videos of our families, political rants, etc. But just because we do it, it doesn't automatically give the right for strangers to make negative comments about it. We have become jaded as a society into believing that we can do and say whatever we want whenever we want. There is a time and a place for everything, that's what I believe.

I applaud you Chrissy Tiegen. You're a pretty cool chick for being able to take it and for continuing to put yourself out there. I for one appreciate that you do it. You seem like a real person, and in a sea of not so real, that's refreshing. Keep doing what you're doing because I'm pretty sure you're making a difference in someone's life. And if you're ever looking for a parent coach, gimme a call...I have a feeling our parenting styles are pretty similar.